Robert Christiansen
Motive For Life offers a whole new way of being, one that is defined by your intentions. You can live in a world of intentional life experiences. Through the Power of Worthiness and dedicated routines of language conditioning, you can change your experience from a life of random and unpredictable events to intentional success.
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You are getting exactly what you think about - whether you want it or not. The game is to control your thinking so you can get what you REALLY want! Through Motive For Life's unique process of linking worthiness, language conditioning, and action, you will take control of your life in a whole new way.
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How to Deal with Difficult People
Aug 30, 2020
Devon and Robert bring real-world situations into this greater podcast. They have tried and true tips and advice that has served them for years, and will serve you as well. In this podcast, they discuss using each of these tips:
- Speak Less - When you say less, people tend to think you agree with them. When you keep my mouth close, people naturally assume you are aligned with them because you have not given them any reason to think otherwise. It takes two people to have a disagreement - when one side believes you think the same as them, there is little space for disagreement.
- Compassion - When you hold the other person in mind as another human - someone who needs compassion and love - you are naturally accepting them for who they are, and in turn, you are not in disagreement with them.
- Your Part - Are you engaging? Looking for an argument? Are you trying to provoke the other person? From time to time, we all want to mix it up. Check yourself.
- Leave - Everyone has the ability to walk away. Unless you are locked up in prison, you have the ability to leave the situation.
- Ask open-ended questions - This allows you to listen more. When the other person talks, they feel empowered and heard - granted you are actively listening. Allow them to give you as much information as possible so that you can extract what is needed.
- Build rapport - Sometimes difficult people hold power, and it takes building rapport to tap into that power. Rapport building takes time, a valiant effort showing that one cares, and being thoughtful. An example is remembering their favorite pet or children’s names. This can go a long way, and allow you to tap into their power in a meaningful way.
- Your view - Should you have a grudge or resentment against the difficult person, imagine them as a sick individual in bed dealing with an illness. Wish the best for them deep within your heart. You’ll notice that you end up losing sight of the grudge.
- Inside You - Recognize they are triggering something in you that you do not like. For example, they may be aligned with a political group and that group represents beliefs not shared by you. They are triggering something inside of you - therefore the problem starts with your view of the person.