Aug 30, 2020
Devon and Robert bring
real-world situations into this greater podcast. They have
tried and true tips and advice that has served them for years, and
will serve you as well. In this podcast, they discuss using
each of these tips:
Less - When you say less, people tend to think you agree with
them. When you keep my mouth close, people naturally assume
you are aligned with them because you have not given them any
reason to think otherwise. It takes two people to have a
disagreement - when one side believes you think the same as them,
there is little space for disagreement.
- Compassion - When you hold the other person in
mind as another human - someone who needs compassion and love - you
are naturally accepting them for who they are, and in turn, you are
not in disagreement with them.
Part - Are you engaging? Looking for an argument? Are
you trying to provoke the other person? From time to time, we
all want to mix it up. Check yourself.
- Everyone has the ability to walk away. Unless you are
locked up in prison, you have the ability to leave the
open-ended questions - This allows you to listen more. When
the other person talks, they feel empowered and heard - granted you
are actively listening. Allow them to give you as much
information as possible so that you can extract what is
rapport - Sometimes difficult people hold power, and it takes
building rapport to tap into that power. Rapport building
takes time, a valiant effort showing that one cares, and being
thoughtful. An example is remembering their favorite pet or
children’s names. This can go a long way, and allow you to
tap into their power in a meaningful way.
view - Should you have a grudge or resentment against the difficult
person, imagine them as a sick individual in bed dealing with an
illness. Wish the best for them deep within your heart.
You’ll notice that you end up losing sight of the
- Inside You - Recognize they are triggering
something in you that you do not like. For example, they may
be aligned with a political group and that group represents beliefs
not shared by you. They are triggering something inside of you -
therefore the problem starts with your view of the